By Heku
After spending time with a group of people, do you feel energized and ready for anything or do you want to hide in the corner with a good book?
Depression makes very difficult to spend time with a group of people. The last thing you want to do is to go out to a party. Or to go out at all. It is hard enough to find strength to start your day, to do the basic things of everyday life. You don’t want anybody to witness your weakness, that chain that paralyzes you. Spending time with a group of people is an enormous effort that leaves you exhausted. And after that you only want to disappear. To hide in the corner with a good book? maybe. Sometimes there’s no strength to make the effort to read. To hide? definitely.
it can be worse if mingling with strangers
True.
That’s true.
I’m currently in the grip of major depression and at the best of times suffer from social anxiety but I actually find that a small group of friends is a good gathering. It helps me feel a little more connected to the world and helps the loneliness.
I’ve also discovered that going to a semi-regularly held dance party where I feel welcomed and know a few of the crowd is good for me too but it is a very nice crowd and run by some friends.
Otherwise it **is** very hard.
thank you for the advice and for sharing. I’ll try to find something but I don’t feel like dancing. Last year I had a good experience with a small choir. All good friends. I attended the rehearsals and that helped me. But I gave up. Maybe I should try again.
Olga, I think the dance party works for me because I went for a while before the depression hit so it was already a comfortable place for me.
The choir sounds good but if you are anything like me it is too easy to miss something regular unless I can get someone to come and pick me up and help me get out of the house.
That’s a good idea. Thank you again.
I have felt exactly what you described. It isn’t a good feeling to me. I like to be more in control of my emotions. Thankfully I have healed from this for the most part, but I do have my moments
I’m glad you feel better now. Such a good news! I hope these moments are rare. Take care.
agree, tendency to isolate ourselves
So true. I helped me reading this post, thank you. Keep writing, take care. 🙂
*it helped me, typo! 😀 🙂
I’m glad it helped you. 🙂
Thank you.